ARE YOU A HOMEBODY?

03/09/2017

07_carrie apartment_sex and the city_bedroom_hbo_com“There’s no place like home”… I really couldn’t agree more. We live just outside of the city, in a sort-of hidden area of town that truly feels like a treehouse. I love being at home, and am still loving living here, just as much as I did when we first moved in nearly four years ago.

I work from home the majority of the time, so it’s safe to say that I spend a lot of my time within the comfort and security of my own four walls. And, while I certainly wouldn’t consider myself a hermit, I do prefer the familiarity and ease of being at home with my family. My perfect day would be spent relaxing in bed, with the kids running in and out, reading books and drinking coffee. Even when I’m out to dinner with Aubrey or enjoying the company of close friends at their houses, I always find myself releasing a small sigh, equal parts relief and contentedness, once we pull back into our driveway for the night. I can’t quite put my finger on what it is. Home is my happy place, plain and simple.

I know that there are all kinds of people though—introverts and extroverts, homebodies, and party animals. And, most of the time people fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. But, what about you? Do you find that you feel most alive in the space you’ve created and cultivated as your home base, or would you rather reenergize and refuel somewhere else? Would you consider yourself a homebody, too?

Photo above of Carrie Bradshaw’s apartment on Sex And The City via HBO.

40 comments

  • Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog

    I am a 10 out of 10 on the homebody scale. I almost always cancel my plans to go out… it’s such a bad thing sometimes but I love being warm and cosied up, especially in the winter months like now.

    Charmaine Ng | Architecture & Lifestyle Blog
    http://charmainenyw.com

  • Allison

    I am definitely a homebody. There are not many times that I would actively choose doing something away from home if I have the opportunity to be at home reading/relaxing alone or cooking dinner with/for those I love.

  • Sophie

    I’m a homebody in the sense that I feel most relaxed when I’m in Atlanta. Atlanta is my home.

    http://goldclutter.com

  • Cynthia

    Total homebody after decades of needing to be out and about for work and life. I have always loved home and now that my sons have families of their own it is especially divine. While I enjoy entertaining house guests and dinner guests, there is nothing better to me than a clean, curated home with everything in its place. It provides the perfect backdrop for endless creativity, the calmness for relaxed days and deep night sleep, and an oasis from the noise of our world. I am fortunate to have beautiful outdoor spaces too that feel like a private park. I think I could happily become a hermit.

  • Siobhan

    I have a love/hate relationship with my house. I both love and hate the chaos and comfort and clutter and calm of my home.There is something inherently calming about being inside this safe space where everything is my own and we can move at the pace that is most familiar. However it creates a bubble that I get very anxious to have people come by because it feels like an invasion of that safe space. On the other hand then, there are times in which I literally am busting to get out and explore. I love nature and outdoors. Right now with the seasons transitioning I am feeling that alot, I’m ready to sit by the beach and climb in the hills and run around my backyard. Then fall will come and I will want to retreat to my cozy corner of the world again.

  • Stephanie

    My fiancee and I call ourselves happy little introverts. We could stay home all the time and be just completely content. Our house is where we feel rejuvenated and happy and calm. We do go out but it’s when we’re out that we’re like, so how long before we get to go home?

    It’s just the best feeling, being at home.

    http://aneducationindomestication.com

  • fefe

    Yep – this is me 100%. I’m happier, cozier, and I get so much more work done when I’m at home.

    http://objectsicantafford.com

  • Micaela

    You are preaching to the choir. Time at home (outside of work, and how I wish I could work from home) is a part of my self-care.

    The problem with being a homebody (especially if you are without family or a partner) is that you still want to find others that share your hobbies, your penchant for the written word (through books) or your thoughtfulness, and that often requires leaving one’s home. But if you want to meet other homebodies, or readers, or thinkers, what are the odds you will find them out and about? Alternatively, it is easier to find the choir to whom to preach through blogs like these. Safely, from one’s own home, one finds others whose way of life aligns with his or hers, or one creates a blog platform on which to share his or her thoughts with others. This is a wonderful form of connection. Naturally, if you do not have a family or a pet or a roommate, etc., it can be a form of disconnection as well, or false connection.

    How does one balance that? Would love to hear others’ thoughts.

  • heaether

    i grew up in an ever changing/always moving environment. once i bought my first home the security, stability, and sense of place was finally present in my life, and now i never want to leave. homebody extraordinaire.

  • Candelaria

    Agreed! I found more than often preferring to stay warmed at home, watching a movie, illustrating, hanging with my dog…..but also making it ready for friends to come over for bbq’s or drinks. I love when my home is cozy for others too! Kind of making it the meeting point :)

  • Cortney

    Im not really sure what I am? I get energy from being alone and never feel lonely. When I tell people that they don’t believe me, but its true. I enjoy one on one conversation, but groups exhaust me. And when I am out I am just thinking about when I can go home. I think it’s a good thing to enjoy your own company.

    • Rachel

      Cortney you are 100% an introvert, classic definition introvert. (Nothing wrong with that, I am too, lol)

    • Alex

      I agree, Cortney! I too, feel energized from my personal time. I find being amongst colleagues all day to be draining, especially when they are stressful ones. At home, in peace, I can just be me. Plus, there’s time to energize with proper food, a little nap, and some spiritual stuff that I never get time to do when I’m at the desk job all day.

  • Victoria

    I never used to consider myself a homebody until lately when I started working a job outside of the home. I guess you could say I have a new appreciation for the comforting, personal space in which I live!

  • Ramona

    I begrudgingly make/accept plans (secretly hoping the event gets cancelled at the last minute), say all my “hellos” then make an “Irish exit” cutting out early. It’s not that I don’t like doing things with people, but sometimes it’s just hard to be “on.” I prefer either very small, intimate (just one other couple) get-togethers or huge, massive venues where nobody knows me. Personally, I think this is how people are becoming. The more we’re “connected” (social media wise), the more we’re becoming “disconnected” with face-to-face interactions. The only exception to this is spending time with my grandchildren. I love them so much and always look forward to all our visits!

  • http://whimsicalwolfblog.com/

    I am too much of a homebody lol. Loved this post. thank you for sharing

  • Julie S

    I love being a home where I feel most comfortable and at ease. Every space is my own, set up for me to feel like I can move, eat, sleep, work, relax without a worry. It’s not that I don’t like going out, but there’s nothing like kicking off your boots and falling into your favorite spot on the couch to unwind.

    Love your blog!

  • Rachel

    I love traveling, but other than I love being in my little paradise, my yard, my house, my bed(me bed is ah-mazing!) And at this point in my life I embrace this side of myself, but I didn’t always and tried to do the whole going out thing. So glad I’m over that phase of life!

  • Alex

    Homebody right here! Well, somewhere in between. I’m about to leave my office jobs – after 10 years of working various office jobs – to expand my side business, so I can work flexibly, from home. I love working at home in comfortable clothes, not having to put on a full face of makeup everyday. I feel that I make healthier choices at home, too. I love having a time out for lunch in the comfort of my home, rather than just having to walk around the city around my office, basically wasting time, usually making poor food choices or spending too much money! I cannot wait to ramp up my homebody status! Lovely timed post :)

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  • Meredith

    I go back and forth! If I have spent most of the week indoors sometimes I”ll find myself feeling stir-crazy by Friday night but then once I am out and about I can’t wait to come home.

    There really is no place like home! :)

  • Meredith

    I go back and forth! If I have spent most of the week indoors sometimes I”ll find myself feeling stir-crazy by Friday night but then once I am out and about I can’t wait to come home.

    There really is no place like home! :)

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