So, I have always been one to look at the New Year as a fresh start. To strive to be better, do better, and catch up or put in place all of the things that I desire to make better. It’s a time for healthy eating and exercise. It’s a time for organization and getting rid of things that we don’t need. It’s a time to make schedules and rituals. To be a better parent, a better wife, and a better friend. It’s all-around a time for a lot of good intentions, which I think is healthy and motivating. But for me, I think that my list of resolutions can also make me feel like a failure once I realize that I physically and mentally can’t do it all—or once I eat that cheesy, greasy, gluten-filled, but oh-so delicious burger with an extra side of fries.

This year, I am keeping things a little more realistic. I made my list of goals on New Years Eve and haven’t stuck to one of them consistently since the ball dropped and you know what, I’m okay with that. It’s okay! This year my resolution is to keep my list handy, to look at it frequently, and to do the best I can. To give myself a break, to ask for help, and to say “no”more often.

I can have all of the good intentions in the world. I can have goals galore. And, I probably will not achieve them all and I’m fine with that.

What are your resolutions for 2016?


  • Victoria

    Thank you so much for sharing, James! This is probably the best “New Year’s Resolutions” post I’ve read this year! It’s so wise to make achievable goals and being okay with not meeting them all! We often put so much pressure on ourselves and set such high expectations!

  • April | April Everyday

    I usually make goals more than resolutions, so last year some of my goals were to travel to at least two new countries and to spend more time with family and friends. I found that making goals that were more about improving the way I spend my time and that I actually enjoy doing made it a whole lot easier, rather than the usual “go to the gym 3 times a week” haha!
    This year, I decided to just enjoy life more, and so far it’s going pretty good!
    xo April | April Everyday

  • Rose D'Angelo Designs

    Thank you for keeping it real. I am growing tired of everyone claiming that their lives are so perfect in every way, shape & form.

    I have one goal in mind for 2016–After all the heartache and loss that my little family has suffered recently, I pray for joy to enter our lives!

    Happy New Year and thank you for always inspiring me!!

  • becca waterloo

    I hope to have more confidence and presence. I always strive to be the best version of myself that I can be, and while the new year is a nice fresh start, it’s something I try to work on full force all throughout the year. You’re doing a great job, and are NOT a failure! Happy New Year!

  • Odessa | Odessa Darling

    I completely agree with your outlook on resolutions – I even wrote a post about it myself! They just end up leaving me discouraged, and like you said, feeling like a failure. Keeping things realistic is a good outlook for the year :)

  • Snappystreet

    Just wonderful! Thank you for being so honest and open about how you’re feeling in 2016. I agree, all we can do is be ‘our best’ and everyone’s version of that is different! All I want to do is have more positivity in my life in the new year, and however I can get that – I’m willing to do!

  • Kaylee

    I agree! On this new year’s day, I looked back if I ever completed my New Year’s resolutions each year, and realized that I haven’t done them perfectly. So I just made simple & easy plans that I really can DO for 2016. As one of the people who get anxious under pressure, it was really nice to let myself to take my new plans easy! Thanks for sharing your thoughts xx

  • anika

    thank you. so needed to read something like this at this exact moment.

  • De @

    I love this post! And I agree that it’s good to keep goals a reminder but not beat yourself up about them. My goals for 2016: write more, be organized, and have fun. :)

  • kelseyespecially

    Such a great outlook! In 2016 one word encapsulates every major goal I have this year: GAINZ. Gym gains, money gains (paying off debt – only two accounts left to go!), creative gains, social gains (making IRL friends as a grown-up with kids and no money for a sitter or going out is HARD), knowledge gains (I too often feel uniformed about what’s going on in the world), and “me” gains (taking more time for myself). I know all those sound pretty big and vague, but I’ve quantified each of those facets of life with super specific goals that are actually attainable, and so far so good!

  • Brittany

    Love it! I’m not big on resolutions either but I do like the idea I keep seeing of a word for the year. Maybe your word is “no” haha! Mine this year is “mindfulness” and I am already struggling with it. But you are right… It’s okay!

  • Anna Kline

    I love choosing a word of the year and have been doing it for the past 6 years or so. It is a really cool way to approach a new year!

  • Emma @ Emmageddon

    I made goals this year instead of resolutions…. resolution sounds so formal and there is so much self-imposed guilt when I don’t stick to it, so this year I made goals… which for me, means I’m trying at these things… if I try then I can’t ask any more of myself. :) Good luck!


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