James Kicinski-McCoy is a writer and blogger, specializing in strategic marketing and branding, is a co-founder and editor of Mother Magazine, and co-owner and creative director of Two Son. She lives with her husband and four children in Nashville, Tennessee.
Is name changing becoming a thing of the past? As we move further into the 21st century, fewer women are changing their last name after marriage, and some couples are even creating a new last name by combining parts of their former surnames. Whereas certain women view this new-age trend as a refreshing break from patriarchal tradition, others prefer the unity—or convenience—of a shared last name. Similarly, some women are proud of their heritage, identity, or family name, and therefore want to hold on to it. Regardless, there’s certainly no right or wrong way to do it—all options are rooted in personal values and preference.
I was raised with my mother’s last name, but to this day I go by a hyphenated version of my former husband’s last name (Kicinski) and my current husband’s (McCoy). I still have a close relationship with my ex, so it never seemed odd to me that I kept his last name, which is also shared by my two older kids, Julian and Plum. My little kids, Birdie and Sailor, have their dad’s last name, so a hyphenated version of the two seemed like the best option for me, so we could all share the same name.
So, what are your thoughts? Did you/will you change your last name? Feel free to share below!
“There’s no place like home”… I really couldn’t agree more. We live just outside of the city, in a sort-of hidden area of town that truly feels like a treehouse. I love being at home, and am still loving living here, just as much as I did when we first moved in nearly four years ago.
I work from home the majority of the time, so it’s safe to say that I spend a lot of my time within the comfort and security of my own four walls. And, while I certainly wouldn’t consider myself a hermit, I do prefer the familiarity and ease of being at home with my family. My perfect day would be spent relaxing in bed, with the kids running in and out, reading books and drinking coffee. Even when I’m out to dinner with Aubrey or enjoying the company of close friends at their houses, I always find myself releasing a small sigh, equal parts relief and contentedness, once we pull back into our driveway for the night. I can’t quite put my finger on what it is. Home is my happy place, plain and simple.
I know that there are all kinds of people though—introverts and extroverts, homebodies, and party animals. And, most of the time people fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. But, what about you? Do you find that you feel most alive in the space you’ve created and cultivated as your home base, or would you rather reenergize and refuel somewhere else? Would you consider yourself a homebody, too?
Photo above of Carrie Bradshaw’s apartment on Sex And The City via HBO.
My ex-mother-in-law taught me how to make this incredibly easy curry chicken salad over 15 years ago. It’s really good and also a hit with the kids! Since I made bone broth last week, I decided to whip up this dish with the chicken I had left over. I hope you like it!
You will need:
One roasted chicken, you can roast your own or buy one pre-roasted, which I usually do for convenience
Two green granny smith apples
Two celery stalks
2 heaping spoonfuls of mayo, I use Nayonaise or Just Mayo (my favorite!)
1-2 Tbsp. curry powder, to taste
Salt and pepper, to tase
Roast chicken if not pre-roasted. Remove breasts from whole chicken and cut into bite-size cubes. Chop all remaining ingredients and combine in a large mixing bowl. Stir in mayo and spices, to taste. Tip: Wait to add cashews until immediately before serving to avoid them softening.
I chose this photo for this week’s link list because this sleeping cat is my current spirit animal. My bigs plans for the weekend include sleeping in and staying in my bed for as long as I possibly can. Quick update on the tattoo removal… session one is behind me. It’s going to take approximately 10 sessions to completely disappear, but after just one treatment, this 20-year-old tattoo is already looking much lighter. I am hoping it will take less time to remove than we think. It did hurt like a mofo, but the pain literally lasted 10-15 seconds, tops, and now feels comparable to a sunburn. I can handle that, no problem. I go back in six weeks for round two. Hope you all have a great and restful weekend. Here are this week’s ten things…
Now that things are settling down for us a bit, we finally have the time to complete some more projects around the house. So far, we’ve put on a new roof, redid our laundry room, and replaced all of our kitchen appliances. Over the next few months, we are finishing up the kitchen upgrades, installing new flooring on two floors, fully gutting four bathrooms, repairing and repainting the siding of the house, and tackling landscape upgrades this spring. We’ve already ordered wood to replace our old carpeted floors upstairs, selected an exterior paint color, and have made all of our bathroom selects as far as tubs, sinks, and fixtures are concerned. Now, we’re trying to make final decisions on bathroom tile. Who knew there were so many choices to make when it comes to the room that houses your toilet? Floor tile, shower tile, sink fixtures, tub fixtures, sink type, towels bars—it can all be a bit overwhelming, but, we are almost there.
All of that said, we’re been looking to different home design sites for inspiration. At the end of the day, you can only look at so many swatches before you need to visualize what the outcome will look like in real life. This house is one of my all-time favorites. The clean lines and minimalist, yet intentional decisions are so smart. I mean, just look at that staircase!